Our house has been overtaken with painters for the last two days finishing off my vision for our family room and kitchen, so needless to say I have not been cooking. Last night our older kids got to run off some steam at A Good Time Out while the hubs and I went to Pier 1 to get accessories and grabbed some dinner at Frugattis so it hasn't been all bad. Tonight we will be dining on pizza so I will start back up with the recipes tomorrow. I thought I'd post today on what has been on my mind since yesterday afternoon when my 4 year old asked if she could see all my wedding albums. I got them down from the top shelf in a cabinet and blew off some dust and handed them over. I rarely look at them which makes me wonder why I spent $900 of my wedding budget on a photographer, but I sat with Elliot and flipped through the pages of the most overwhelming day of my life.
I got married in June of 2002. I was nearly 21 years old and thought I knew everything. We had a ridiculously large wedding party and after looking at all the picks of all the people I realized how much we have all changed. For starters almost all of Scotts groomsman (many of whom were his childhood best friends) have completely fallen off our radar. It isn't that we had falling outs but we just completely lost contact. I'm still friendly with 75% of my girls. My maid of honor (my best friend of 9 years) and I are completely through now so that kind of sours my photos. Most of my friends just live far away now and 2 are complete strangers to me now. I guess I'm writing about this now because lately I've been to a few weddings, performed one and am about to attend another and I feel like I'm bursting with been there done that advice that I will never give. So I'll do it now!
For starters: Be careful when you choose your wedding party. I was angry and my cousin (i consider her my sister you'll hear about her alot I'm sure) Alicia so I specifically didn't have her be my maid of honor which is something I'll regret forever. I chose someone that I've always had a volatile relationship with because I thought she'd be super pissed if I overlooked her. Try to picture your friends in 10 years--are they really someone you want in your pictures?
Next: Do not get your dresses made!!!! Anyone that was in my wedding can attest to that. It was a disaster, eh.
Also: Be a sorta bridezilla. I was the opposite of bridezilla and It was not a good thing. I could have used one day of complete insanity. I thought I cared but I ended up letting so many other people run the show. I know the 29 year old version of me would never put up with that crap but 20 year old Sarah didn't want to hurt any feelings. Hurt a couple feelings ladies; they won't die.
However, don't go to the other extreme and Freak Out for a year and then act like a monster on the big day. I was a bridesmaid once for one of those. She cussed all day at everyone and I almost protested the vows for the sake of the groom. I should have--they divorced.
Well I know this post is a bit random but I thought I'd just bring up a couple point that other chicks out their had probably thought before. I leave with this thought--If you put more thought into the wedding than the marriage do us all a favor and don't make us buy the blender--
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