I know everyone gets into a bad mood from time to time, but mine take casualties. Last Thursday started it. I got an irritating "joke" email from someone that made a "joke" aimed at Scott. Not cool. I told them off and moved on, then Scotty went on a golf trip for 3 days and my mood continued. Then Usama Bin Laden got shot.
It sure seems like facebook brings out the worst in people. I am totally guilty of this. You don't have to actually say something to someones face to be hurtful. On facebook you write exactly what comes to your mind at the time and for me that can be deadly. I posted something this morning about the hypocrisy some of my religious friends seem to have in regards to Bin Laden and homosexuals. I won't go into detail here but a family member took offense to my saying that negative comments (about either God or gays) would get you deleted. She felt like I was wrong and decided to call me on it. Funny thing is I am rarely wrong---about what I write. I wrote the truth. I did not say disagreeing with me would get you deleted just negative comments. Needless to say that in the world of facebook we are no longer family. That hurts but I stand by my comments.
Back to Bin Laden; everyone has an opinion and they are really hot to share them. There were the billion "Go America, you can run but can't hide" posts or the "Obama 1 Osama 0" or my personal favorite "Bin Laden was expecting 72 virgins and instead got 24 Virginians"--also represented were the people that wrote that we shouldn't be celebrating his death. Both sets of people are entitled to their opinions yet sadly there is always someone to argue with them.
I think facebook is a great thing. It gives people the opportunity to connect with distant family (my favorite reason), hook back up with old friends and some even find love. However with this ability you have to be responsible. Everybody doesn't want to hear your plan for the day, what you ate or your constant political views but we post them anyway. We type things in the safety of our home office or Iphones and walk away. We then feel the sinking realization of what we typed and contemplate removing them--until within 3 seconds they are read and commented on. I think that for this reason when you're in a bad mood you should avoid social media. I should have avoided most people today but instead I lashed out at a person I share DNA with. Was what I said wrong? No--but my reaction to her opinion was out of line and I can't take it back.
Facebook is like being in school all over again. There are the popular people that have tons of friends and their stuff gets tons of comments--there are the sluts that always post half naked pics of themselves--the jocks and their constant talk of the Lakers or golf game and then jackasses like me that are loud and say what they feel. I was like that in school and apparently it didn't change. I actually have grown to like myself and don't want to censer myself so I won't. That being said I think that I need to realize that it isn't a great thing to offend people and I should probably calm it down.
Facebook is a phenomenon and we are all in for the ride--just like roller coasters the ride gets nauseating after a while so we should all take a few turns and sit it out. Next time I am feeling frisky I'll channel that energy into maybe exercise and not facebook. My mother will be so proud.
Not having family and VERY close friends I often want to jump on social media outlets and let the world know my feelings and my thoughts. Even if they aren't common and accepted belief. But instead, often, not always, I bite my tongue. I have always appreciated your honesty. Although I don't always agree with you, I admire strong women. ♥
ReplyDeleteWell said and very thoughtful. I hope your family member forgives you.
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