Yeah that's right, he's flipping married. He bought a diamond, some china and a home with another woman. He made promises and children with another woman.
Did he tell you she was crazy? Wax poetic about how he wished he'd met you sooner? Yeah I bet he did. He's a fucking liar.
No this is not about my personal situation. My husband and I are both way to far up each others asses to cheat. Our needs are met and we take our commitment seriously. Plus I'm Latin and he doesn't want to die. I am speaking of the numerous times that I've watched this story unfold around me. I've been the ear of friends that think they're in love with married men and I've listened to the grievances of the jilted wife. I've even heard the BS that can spew from a man who is cheating. All these years of listening have given me enough fuel to feel pretty strongly about infidelity and how it could be prevented.
I used to love the show Reba. It had all the stupid crap I look for in a sitcom. Funny characters, a whiny teen, stupid antics. It also had the most unbelievable plot that I've ever seen. A divorcee living with her 3 kids, left with nothing after she helped her husband build a career to which he thanked her by impregnating his assistant. Of course they all become best friends and confidants. This plot line is probably what most men hope will happen after they bang their secretary, right? Everyone will be super understanding and move on. It doesn't happen that way. There will be insane bitterness and childish behavior. There will be tears, ugly tears, kim kardashian ugly tears. It's real life and being cheated on sucks.
When I was younger I had terrible taste in guys. I dated 2 different guys in high school and they both eventually cheated. The first one probably wanted sex. Actually I know he wanted that. I just wasn't willing to give it to him and he found girls that would. Good for him. The second one I had planned a future with. After 2 years, an engagement and me pretending to support his dumbass ideals he found a girl that was giggly and even younger who would make him feel like a king. That one really hurt. It's hurts to know someone lied and fooled around exposing you to diseases. Lucky for me I was 20 and apparently not really in love. I mourned that relationship for 3 weeks before picking myself up by my boot straps and moving on. Soon after I met my husband and the rest is history. I couldn't imagine the pain of having a man I had built a life with cheat. That pain wouldn't be fixed by some shots with your girlfriends and badmouthing his penis size. It would change who you were as a person no matter how much of a feminist you consider yourself.
I would love to hear from even more people who have been in any of the situations I described above. The wife, husband, lover etc. It would be anonymous of course and I would use the info for a fairly long research style blog post. If you're willing to share with me please email me at sarabelle81@gmail.com
Thanks Sarah
I got married at 18 and thought I was so in love with my ex. After 4 months of marriage we were expecting our first son. A month before my due date I found out the douche was cheating, had an idea he was but it was confirmed when I answered a call on hiz phone from his sister and wellbit wasn't his sister. I forgave him and 3 months after having our first son I discovered we werr about to have a second son and he was still. Chearibg with that skank. For years I put with his cheating ass because I was afraid of being a single parent. Finally after 4 long agonizing years I left his ass and found my new amazing faithful husband.
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry. Thank you for your story.
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